Until you like each other
Until you like each other is a psychological and emotional support book written by psychologist and specialist in sexology and relationships Elizabeth Clapés, known for the best-seller Dear me: we need to talk (2022). The work that concerns this review was published by Penguin on February 2, 2023 as a predecessor of the previous title.
Although both books are self-contained, The author recommends giving her first volume a chance and then moving on to the next., since the dynamics and structures presented in both volumes are designed to accompany the reader in their process of self-discovery, so Until you like each other It is the next step, the second level.
Synopsis of Until you like each other
Work on yourself to be proud of who you are
If there is a word that is capable of defining Elizabeth Clapés' books, it is “closeness”, and this text is no exception. By In general, the great failure of self-help occurs when people without knowledge or professional ethics decide to write to give saving advice to readers. Motivation is not real help, it is not aimed at genuine progress.
However, when psychologists and mental health specialists in general they take the pen and they take a jump of faith towards the letters and dissemination, things get a lot more interesting. The reason is simple: because they not only have the necessary knowledge, but also the tools to stimulate the training and emotional evolution of those who read their words.
The importance of deepening self-knowledge
It is likely that the human, Being sociable by nature, spend a lot of time trying to get to know others. However, it's funny how, on the other hand, dedicates very few resources to discovering himself, causing mental gaps which give way to attacks of anger, depression, inability to resolve conflicts, isolation and propensity to be manipulated.
Ignorance of oneself brings results that in the worst case, could be fatal, and, at best, they would generate subconscious discomfort. That is why Elizabeth Clapés focuses precisely on creating in the reader a need to understand who they are, why they are like this and how it is possible to improve. In general, the author always makes it clear that this does not replace personalized psychological consultation.
The effects of working on self-esteem
Another of the fundamental approaches of Until you like each other It is training self-esteem. To do this, it is necessary for people to rethink their attitudes, fears, emotional needs and tastes. In this sense, the most frequently asked questions in the section are: “Why do I feel so sensitive?”, “Why am I always on the defensive?” or “Why do I feel anxious? What's happening to me?".
When a person gets angry and you feel emotions that prevent you from thinking or acting rationally, you operate impulsively, make wrong decisions and says things that you will probably regret in the near future. To achieve a balance, it is necessary to ask ourselves about the wounds of childhood and the other stages of life where cracks could have been generated.
Everything we can't control
Within the text, the psychologist highlights a primary step to improve self-esteem, and this has to do with learning to distinguish what can be controlled from everything that escapes the reader's control. Life is full of situations that get out of hand., and it is normal to feel frustrated at not being able to handle them, but the only thing you need to support is your own self.
Many times, Factors such as unemployment, recession, illness or death tend to leave human beings in a very vulnerable mental place., on a line between the lack of control and the need for it. According to psychology, the solution is the understanding and acceptance of this lack of control over life, since the only thing that can be managed are one's own reactions to the environment.
Narrative style of the work
Elizabeth Clapes, known on social networks as @esmipsicologa, He has created a large community of followers thanks to his advice and the way you convey your message. In her books, the author is open and close to the reader. To achieve this, she talks to him about “you” and presents him with simple examples to explain the most basic concepts of human psychology.
Bringing mental health to a wide audience is not easy, since there are several psychological schools and multiple methodologies to address the same problem. However, Elizabeth Clapés achieves it thanks to her close voice, her analogies and the simplicity and empathy with which she writes. In the end, The ultimate goal of this author is to bring the practice of mental health to every home.
About the author
Elizabeth Clapés is a Spanish psychologist, writer, teacher and content creator. She was born and raised on the island of Ibiza, but always wanted to get away from home to carry out an activity that had chosen her since she could remember: psychology. After finishing high school, he moved to the city of Barcelona to study his dream career and learn how to help others.
As an psychology is his passion, he soon discovered that he needed to specialize in an area that would allow him to be much closer to the hearts of his patients, so She completed a master's degree in Clinical Sexology and began treating couple relationships until she became one of the greatest experts in her area.
Likewise, through his Instagram and his website he provides advice to improve the self-esteem of his followers and accompany them in their therapeutic processes. The author grants consultations through her platform and also offers free articles on his blog.
Other books by Elizabeth Clapés
- Lose you to find myself (March 19, 2024);
- You are not the problem (May 30, 2024).